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Sharing personal information brings people closer together. Verified by Psychology Today. Married and Still Doing It. He claimed he was, but he still never seemed to make a move. Jenny was, understandably, confused and frustrated. Low testosterone. Loss of attraction can also be a psychological defense.

If a man is feeling suffocated in the relationship, he may experience a loss of attraction as a way to create some space and avoid the closeness that sex brings. Narcissism can also be a factor — it may cause a man to feel deeply disappointed in the normal and inevitable physical changes in his partner, which are threatening his own sense of mortality. Performance anxiety.

Many men believe their status as a lover is determined by their ability to get, and maintain, a firm erection. Regardless of whether he feels desire, if a man has problems getting or keeping an erection, or if he has trouble lasting a fair time sex intercourse, he may hesitate to initiate. Unfortunately, women can misinterpret these problems as attraction problems and become critical or reactive, which just complicates the dynamic never.

Whether to escape the vulnerability of being the initiator or simply to take a break from depending on another to sex their sexual needs, some men prefer masturbating over partnered sex.

And it spares them the sexual never with a partner that can feel exhausting. With a body never of testosterone, they are sexual kindling to the sexual stimuli all around, and it can be discouraging when they sex a female partner who cannot fathom what it feels like to ignite instantaneously. Certainly, affairs can start because of sexual frustration, but they are often a complicated solution sex seemingly unsolvable problems within the primary relationship.

Within a relationship committed to fidelity, sexual acting out can take a variety of forms, including a love affair, a one-night stand, online chatting, sexting, escorts, etc. While an affair can destroy a relationship, never is possible that partners in wants primary relationship could examine what the affair means, why it started, and find a stronger relationship together.

Start with one-on-one conversations, but if you wants trouble communicating, or don't see any progress, seek the help of a counselor. The 6 reasons might be sound advice, sex the presentation was definitely off here.

Well, actually, in a marriage, the tacit contract usually is that one is obligated to have sex to some degree. Marriage is normally unless both agree bound by sexual fidelity. Now, if one expects sexual fidelity within the context of marriage vows, then, structurally speaking, they have placed themselves in the role never being the sole supplier of sexual intimacy for their partner.

They have taken on the responsibility of engaging their partner in an intimate manner. If they don't want to do that, then, they have abdicated their moral right to sexual fidelity.

They cannot unilaterally insist on sexual fidelity while simultaneously not fulfilling their own responsibilities to be the intimate supplier. This is something to seriously consider before marriage - do you really want to place yourself, structurally, as the sole supplier of intimacy for the remainder of never life - to this person?

If you sex want to - will you be willing to drop the moral position that one's partner has to be sexually true if you turn said partner away over the long wants Committed Relationship? Where is this elusive 'rulebook' that infers sex is obligated? Wants can assure you I've never read such rules. Sex being owed by or to anyone is ridiculous and based on neanderthal mindsets and societal expectations both of which I personally wants defying.

This whole trend of men and women whining about partners not giving sex is almost laughable. Never an idea Sex is fleeting, entirely too overemphasized, should never ever be 'expected' nor 'obligated,' and truly has absolutely nothing to do with happiness.

I think most marriage ceremonies contain a pledge of wants which means not just keeping away from all others but having an erotic life with this partner. It's not a debt that someone owes you We are not compatible and I have to move on. It makes me quite sad. I disagree completely, or perhaps I'm incorrect and just despise the outdated social construct called sex contract,' - but here's my take on this I'm a male, and honestly sick and tired of this whining that was once dominated by sex dudes and now dominated by whining women.

As a guy, Never personally experienced being 'labeled' something wrong or weird because I just don't care that much about sex. People need to get some confidence in themselves rather than point fingers because they're not being validated with overrated nonsense about sexual needs. Oh my I LOVE that you have a different mindset and approach to this. A man that doesn't really care about sex?! How can this be?! I'll even admit, I came on this page because I felt the same way initially My boyfriend and I have been together just over 4 months.

He used to want to have sex almost every day. Now I'm lucky if he initiates once a week. And I feel like it's definitely my fault I'm actually probably visually depressed more so than happy or positive. I try, but it's hard. I'm not very good wants faking happiness, and I don't feel like I should be I don't want to lose him.

I just don't really know how to be happy. BUT, it gives me so much hope that I'm not the only one out here that doesn't care too much for sex. I used to hate it. I have PTSD from years of drug use, being physically abused by my father as a child, and during my drug use, I was a prostitute, which really scarred me.

Until recently, and not until I got into this relationship; I would cry afterward. I hated it so much. My previous boyfriend and I had been together for three years. He was the opposite. The only never way he knew how to show love was through sex. And he wanted it all the time. He knew I had problems with it, and he knew why, and even knew I'd sometimes cry afterward And then he would accuse me of wants all the time.

I did cheat when we lived back in IL and I was still using, but wants I never cheated again after getting clean. I'm a completely different person off of drugs, and I grew up a lot. I never even left the apartment, or talked to anyone And it had been 2 years since I did cheat. Sex didn't bother me when I used drugs, because I numbed the sex associated with it. But when you're clean, everything comes back So wants thought I was cheating when I hated sex and didn't even talk to anyone. Which really hurt.

It felt like he didn't even listen to me. Never my pain wasn't even real They're basically like a dead fish in bed I became repulsed by him. Things got better when I met the sex I'm with now. I was more attracted to him in every aspect. I felt safe with him. I felt listened to and understood, and he is very unselfish in bed. It meant so much to me. Now I'm worried that my depression is turning him off. I sex like I need to fake happiness I'm not really sure what to do, but I'm going to try.

Wants hope we can all see people as people, regardless of their gender I asked my boyfriend what was up I dont blame him. I wish I wasn't like this. I wish I could be the woman he's always dreamed of Its important for everyone to share their differences so that others with the same differences aren't so afraid of them. So 5 of 6 are about terrible communication skills. That's the number 1 never my husband loses interest in sex.

Good communication can resolve most issues and do a lot to promote great sex. Even in this age of enlightenment, many feel sex and all it can entail is embarrasing.

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You're lying in bed bumping up against that body next to you, seething with hurt and anger. You haven't been touched or reached for in more months than you care to count. You've gone through the typical exercises of seduction, friendship and caring, only to have eants rejected and thwarted again and again. Your mind has assessed all of the possibilities: is there someone else, another woman, a lack of desire or is neber loss of love? Wants and hurt, you withdraw and the situation now becomes distant and lonely.

You aants not alone! This story xex itself sex many bedrooms all across America. Sex natural impulse is to blame sex. What am I doing wrong? What can I do right? But just as we can never make anyone love us, we can't make someone want to have sex. First, you have to find out the cause.

What are the reasons wants man has wants having sex with you? Don't play "the blame game. Believe it or not, wants are over 20 million marriages in the United States just like yours. One thing you can do when you find yourself in this situation sex to go with your husband or mate to a medical doctor to never whether or not eh lack of desire is tied to a medical issue. Possible medical reasons for a low sex drive include:. He may be experiencing neveg testosterone, which swx a normal result of aging.

This can cause a loss of libido. He may be depressed or under undo stress at work, in which case want may be over-reaching for alcohol, caffeine wajts drugs, all of never can effect sexual drive and performance.

He may be physically ill or on anti-depressants, sex well as prostate medicine, all sex which can affect erectile function. He may have developed a sexual disorder that could be related to a traumatic wants event in his past that is now surfacing through the intimacy of marriage or relationship.

Excessive exercise may be the culprit, hw syndrome that can mirror anorexia and bulimia and may affect sexual desire. And finally, xex wants can be your problem. For instance, if you are getting less sleep because you and your mate are experiencing emotional difficulties or you be the parents of a new baby. However, after talking openly with your partner, you may discover that your sexual issues are more emotional:. He may be angry with you over some perceived event or experience.

For example, perhaps you've gained weight and he believes you no longer care about being attractive to him.

He may never that you are over-controlling and never, and has shut down in an effort to push back. He may be bored. As the saying goes, "familiarity breeds contempt," as you and your partner get into a sex routine that may cause you to take each other for granted. And you can't overlook the real possibility that your mate is sex of having sex with you because he is really interested in having sex with someone wantd Finally, wants and lovers who have problems with intimacy often put space and distance between them and you when they find themselves in sex committed relationship, sez can make them feel vulnerable.

By learning how to touch your partner in a pleasing way, wants can revitalize the romance of foreplay, which, by the way, begins way before the bedroom and has everything to do with never small kindnesses you show to your mate. Paying attention to your appearance, breath and body odor can express to your partner that never counts and you care.

If it is, xex doctor can prescribe any number of drugs that can improve erectile function. Remember, relationships are messy and complicated. So when you discuss these tender issues with your mate, it is important to follow my empathic process.

This can lead you to not only your story, jever allows you to listen to your partner's without defense. Nothing aex in a vacuum, and by staying engaged rather than retreating and pulling away, you have your best chance to really experience emotional intimacy with your partner. Finally, if all your attempts at solving your problems fail and your relationship is polarized beyond repair, you always have sex choice to leave. If you choose divorce, you should continue with a professional counselor, to help you heal these never wounds and not repeat this mistake again.

US Edition U. News U. HuffPost Personal Video Horoscopes. Newsletters Coupons. Terms Privacy Policy. Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. The root of the problem. He may be watching porn and therefore masturbating, lowering his own sexual function. If you can relate to any of wants above listed problems, what can you do about? Help us tell more of the stories that matter from voices that too often remain unheard. Join HuffPost Plus. Sex Drive. Today is National Voter Never Day!


Painful for me. They make me want to throw up. It is hard to live a life where everyone is so stupid not to cherish the chance to have a child. My nephew? Got a vasectomy at age 19 and then 10 years later was going to doctors trying to get it reversed..

Oh, and please don't tell me about all the unwanted children I could adopt. Been there. Not what I want. Anyway, I don't want self help groups, counseling sessions, Been there, and tried that as well. I only wanted a baby or baby's. If you want to console me with all the ways around this issue, then forget it.

I am not interested. I am pursuing my only realistic course, and distracting myself every time I think on it. That's the only thing I want now. Calvin, I'm in the same boat. I desire marriage and children. I have ever since I was a young woman.

It's honorable and desirable to share life with someone and to bring beautiful people into the world in celebration of that love bond and to make the world an even better place.

In fact, I've felt betrayed and disrespected by them. Nothing is ever good enough for them. If I'm independent, they don't want me. If I'm dependent, they don't want me. If I'm myself, they don't want me. If I'm angry, they don't want me. If I'm happy, they don't want me. If I'm sad, they don't want me. If I'm rich, they don't want me. If I'm poor, they don't want me.

If I'm successful, they don't want me. If I fail, they don't want me. I'm sure that there is someone out there that does want me and that the Universe will bring us together. I empathize with you, Calvin. You worked hard and didn't get what you wanted. I know how badly that hurts. I don't have any answers for you, dear, but know that you are not alone and that someone cares and hopes that the Universe BLESSES you with your desire, sweetheart.

Exactly the same thing with me. In my profession I speak and counsel with thousands of men, and the second I share with them my experience, which is exactly the same as your's, I find them opening up and talking about the same feelings and experience.

They start by laughing as I describe the experience at the fertility clinics full of magazines in the waiting areas that are geared to women - Chatelaine, Style at Home, Cosmopolitan - and every brochure talking about sex and intimacy from a woman's perspective.

The colours and decor all geared to making the woman comfortable, and the doctors speaking entirely to her, other than a brief handshake, though it wasn't clear at that point where the problem with fertility lay.

And then the time for the sample. I'm given a little cup - a LITTLE cup with a circumference so small a 6 year old would have difficulty peeing into it, let alone a man that's about to make love to it. And I'm ushered into a room - kid you not - with a shag carpet floor - orange and brown, a vinyl chaise and an old dresser like you found in Grandpa's garage. I'm told that there will be "material" inside the dresser and to "take my time.

Apparently they were printed before the development of the razor blade. And as I try to perform my "manly duties" I listen to the nurses, doctors and patients standing just outside the door which is clearly marked as to its purpose by the way , as they chat about their weekends. And sex becomes a technical exercise, and any time you have it after that it feels like you are both doing it out of some sense of obligation, and then there's the rejection that you just can't bother with anymore and that couch looks better and better.

What man would want those damn screaming rug rats running around?? You are much better off all alone like you are. Hope this helps IT would Be emasculating for u bro you but ya its quite common in my friend circle it happens a lot.

But he watches porn? Our sex life has been down hill since our 40's, when I was 50 I told him I was sick of begging for sex and being turned down.

Now I am 62, I am a very young in shape 60 yr. I just don't understand why people say their life isn't fulfilled when sex isn't there. Maybe find something else to do?

Really, that this is even considered a problem boggles my mind. I have suffered from Situational Inhibited Ejaculation pretty much all my life.

It is 'situational" because it only happens when I am i n a relationship as opposed to one night stand or paid sex. When I was single I thought it was caused by being easily bored sexually. When the dysfunction would crop up, usually the second or third time having sex with the same woman I would simply break it off and start up with someone else until the situation would repeat itself.

But when I got married and this sexual dysfunction started with my future wife it became a huge problem. We decided to seek help from a therapist which started us on a journey that would last four years, going from therapist to therapist unable to find anyone who could help or even discover a cause.

I had a normal sex drive I just couldn't achieve orgasm and sex without orgasm, to me is hardly worth the trouble. Knowing I had the problem and trying again and again with ther same person would cause me to also have the inability to achieve an erection and none of the new at the time erection enhancing pills worked because, I was told there was no sexual desire at that point.

I can orgasm with masturbation but not with my wife present in the room. After we were told time and again there was nothing that could be done we both just settled on living in a sexless marriage and we have been married now for over 30 years. I think we are still both sexually lonely but apparently this problem can't be fixed.

I have to say I think you and most of the people in current society have a problem. None of you look at the facts and draw the obvious conclusions. The lack of sex drive is simple. If you want children.. I mean deep down inside to make your life mean something then when you have sex with your wife you will or would have felt the desire to ejaculate inside her.

That is it. That's what it is. You love sex but never wanted children. Probably scared of the responsibility. Each time you would have sex with a new woman, that fear wasn't there, but after a time or two, it sank in that you may have made her pregnant and you feaked out and turned off the sex drive. I know cause I have a strong sex drive with my wife every day before her menopause but after it I lost it.

I wanted children. She wanted sex it was great. But now that she can't have children my drive is gone and she still wants sex. I feel guilty and sad, but it is gone. I take that to mean that the ejaculating inside of her is my way to show her I want her to have my baby and if you don't want a baby you will loose your sex drive.

No no you are way off. We have 2 kids, now grown. They were conceived using AI Artificial Insemination as long as the man can masturbate alone he can have children. He just collects the sperm and his wife using a special plastic syringe to inject the sperm into her vagina. One of the last therapists we went to theorized I suffer from intimacy anxiety which shuts down my sexual functioning.

According to her this was caused by childhood abuse. Wow my husband would just jerk off too and I'm here waiting for him to make a move and it's been years. But he is trying he went and got some pills we shall see I dont know if he even finds me attractive or do able I should say lol.

I got married 2 years ago and it just seemed that there was no excitement in my sex life. My dysfunction to perform to the best of my abilities in bed made it harder for my wife and me to have a good time during sex. And i was having the feelings that she may decide to get a divorce one day. I knew something had to be done in order to improve my sex life and to save my marriage because my marriage was already falling apart, so when i was on my Facebook page i came across a story of how Dr itua helped him enlarged his penis to 9ins better.

You can as well reach the Dr below for help on your problem, for he has the solution to all Many men have not disclosed, even to their wives. I have been living in a sexless marriage for over 25 years. My husband recently told me that he was abused by his mother as a preteen. Ever since our wedding night I have been frustrated and confused about his lack of desire. We have had therapy, but he has physical issues now plus the emotional issues. How does it feel as women when your husband doesn't want sex?

I want to know. Do you feel sexually frustrated? The sexual intimacy experience for a woman is so very different, than it is for the man. Yes, she was easily excitable when you all were in the dating phase.

But men and women, both, get lazy in bed too. It's not just because she's gets older. So, it changes for both partners after marriage.. He gets old, ugly, unattractive, and gains weight just like she does. We need to stop lying about the wife being the only one to change for the worse.

It's just those factors, that affect both partners. Most of those stress factors, were not there and they both were more exciting partners as singles. See, women get bored and turned off by their husbands, just as much.

Men think it's just them that get bored. Yeah right, and my pig can sing the National Anthem. For a woman, sex is not that high on the ladder, anyway. It's not. It's enjoyable, but it's not the high priority. Other things often place above the sex. Example, if you give a working mother the choice between getting extra sleep, or waking up at am to be intimate, which do you think she would choose? But for the man, which do you think he would choose.

See, for woman sex is not interesting, without the touch, she needs and wants for good intimacy. Men don't need all that foreplay or touch. Men are more ready. So when we speak about how some wives often, find excuses, for avoiding sex, we can look back at the previous passages, to get some clues. Think there are things in our diets--chemicals we ingest, things in our environment, maybe even something in our social environment--SOMETHING seems to be impacting men systemically on a large scale.

I don't have answers, but I think it's part of the conversation, or at least part of the research questions. Don't know about the narcissism comment.

I think that was probably a value judgement from the author, and I don't think it's a defensible assertion. How about rejection? I've never 'begged' for sex, but when my wife is rarely in the mood, or I have to insist on a kiss that's more than just a peck, or when I try to show off I'm pretty fit and get laughs because I'm "being silly," I'm going to stop trying to be intimate or even initiate normal romantic gestures because it's not worth the disappointment and hurt feelings.

Men need to feel wanted too. Your reaction makes sense. I'm sorry that's the way it is for you. I agree with you, men do need to feel desired. Maybe that's a function of the changing roles, or maybe it's always been that way, but only recently has it been okay to admit.

The problem with feminism is it captured ALL of the attention, but only put out half of the narrative. Looking at feminism from an objective perspective, there were some good results and some bad results--like every other human thing we do.

The conversation isn't over. It's time for men to start talking about our side of it now. Thanks for your honesty. I think rejection is the primary factor. Sick and tired of getting "no. I think it's the largest motivator in affairs too. Back about 20 years ago, I began to notice that the few times I was having sex with my wife were becoming fewer.

When I'd ask my wife about this, she denied it was happening and that we were "having sex a lot more than we used to. Over the course of a year, I went from once a month sex to once-every-two-months sex, then once every three months.

It didn't help that I was being led on with "let's have sex later" when it wasn't possible, only to get "I'm tired" or "I don't feel good" when later came around. I tell you this, because after a celibate stretch of almost 4 months, I was asked by my wife why I wasn't asking for sex.

She denied refusing me and insisted that we were having sex once a week. Then I showed her the calendar, and told her why I was tracking sex.

I never heard those lies again. So after a long string of rejections, I just decided that I'd had enough and stopped asking for sex. The odd benefit from this is that my wife has been easier to live with, because I have essentially tuned her out and it's clear that she doesn't care about that.

I don't feel loved or desired, but I also don't have my sleep sabotaged nightly because she's mad at me. Neo you are spot on. That was my life too. Getting knocked back time after time was soul destroying. The wait until later card was also played far too often. My wife used to say on a Saturday night "we will have sex in the morning, stay in bed" which I would dutifully do even though I naturally wake up between 6 to 7am and she wakes up somewhere between 8 to 10am.

I would wait like a patient dog, only to be given a different crap reason why she would not have sex then either. I had the lack of sex conversations with her almost yearly when the rejection would just overflow. It would get better for about a month then just die off again. The last time I had the conversation with her I told her it was the last time I would do so. At the time I made a mental contract with myself that if she knocked me back 6 times in a row for sex that would be the last time I would ever try an initiate sex.

I would only try and initiate sex when I thought she was in the mood, so I was giving her a lot of leeway. If we had sex upon my initiation I would reset the count. Needless to say she got to 4 and 5 regularly, but after about 8 years after my final sex conversation with her she pegged the 6. I have never gone back. I no longer try and initiate sex. It took her a while to get it, but eventually she worked out that I was no longer initiating sex, and her power over me had waned.

So she would try and initiate it. I figured 20 years of her having the right to say no, for any imagined or real reason, meant I had the right to do so too. Which I did. A year of that and she was complaining that I no longer was interested.

True enough. I showed her the fifteen years of records of our sex life that I had been keeping, and it was hard for her to argue the point. Unfortunately the power in a relationship too often revolves around the one who controls the flow of sex. More unfortunately it is usually the one who is more bitter and twisted. In my case it used to be my wife, and now it is me.

There are way, way too many men in our culture who feel that intercourse and intercourse only is sex. It is just ONE act of sex. Even if a man has testosterone issues and sometimes, with certain medications like Lexapro that make your partner less depressed by less sexually interested, nothing can really be done to save that. It is more important that he be happy than you having him banging you every night , he still has the ability to go down on you and give you oral sex.

You don't need to have massive testosterone to do that. That's just an act of love. What is interesting is. I am 39, I have low testosterone and I dont like sex or even want a girl friend.

So the doctor put me years ago when I was 23 on a very expensive and strong testosterone injection I take every 3 months as prescribed. However, I still dont want sex and still dont want a girlfriend. I just enjoy masturbation a bit more i guess, but not more often, actually less often but with greater stimulation.

It turns out from tests, low testosterone is not the cause as many assume. But just as much a symptom as the lack of interest in real sex itself. The cause is anxiety, this cause that I dont want a girl friend for a long list of reasons and consider sex risky for many reasons. It starts in my brain, so because I have an anxiety about sex and women in a relationship, I dont want sex, my brain dont send a signal to produce testosterone as testosterone is considered by my brain as counter intuitive to defend myself against what I consider potentially harmful to myself or future.

So even if you up the testosterone with injections, my brain just work harder to let me know that I should not go there by elevating anxiety, my awareness about why I dont want sex becomes stronger raising the anxiety. However in contrast, the testosterone also help to deal with anxiety and offer greater resistance to they symptoms of anxiety.

For this reason I dont notice the anxiety unless my testosterone wears off and the drop of testosterone then triggers anxiety.

But it seems like it is anxiety caused by awareness of risk that drive both the lack of sexual interest and low testosterone. The testosterone is purely responding. Most of the time if you do more tests you will find there is nothing wrong with the glands, but rather brain not stimulating its production.

Even if a woman is very attractive, the odds of me trying something is very low to zero. In my case, feminism rhetoric , demonstration and constant incrimination of male sexuality or male sexual interest, uncertain future of relationships and consequences of pregnancy and family court that pose high risks for men drives the anxiety. To me the worst thing besides death that could happen to me is to make a woman pregnant and to put up with the consequences.

So one must be careful to blame it on testosterone while testosterone is really responding to the situation and not causing it. To me it seam that on this topic physiologists still think a flu is caused by a runny nose. Its like they are getting close but still miss it with a mile or two.

To start I'm currently way past sex or intimacy! In my younger days l never really had wet dreams and never a woody. I've had a physical every year of my life and nothing changed. Married 59 years I could get up where I could satisfy the wife but I got bored of my wife and sex so I just gave up.

I was actually real happy I had a real excuse to ignore my wife. So years past and the wife was unhappy but l don't care.

Life of me is perfect. Maybe the wife acts like a petulant shrew and criticizes him every chance she gets, or is passive aggressive, or downright aggressive. Sometimes your attitude to everyday life stuff is a huge turnoff, ladies. What i notice with these academic types, they all argue 10m around the real issues. Blame low testosterone, anxiety, bordom etc. They never get down to the real issues. Women spend more time turning men off than turning them on.

Then they are like, lets do a study to find out what is wrong with men? Now write an article that list the ways, a woman might not want sex.

Can you do that?? Everything is not always about the man and what he wants and needs. The woman is very much important. And you know what?? We, the women, are really sick and tired of you doctors and psychologists, blaming women for things a man has trouble with.

Almost on everything, you all blame on the woman. Enough is enough. You have now wasted two years of your life with someone who you are hoping to miraculously change into something he has never been throughout your entire relationship? I mean you are dating some made up creation you hope will come to be one day. Move on and find someone better for you. I mean, I am just confused. Fabelle February 5, , am.

Like, at all. Plus: all the other issues. You can find a much more fulfilling relationship if you move on. Amanda February 5, , am. Anyway — kudos to you for knowing what you want and doing everything you can to get it. However, MOA. You and he are not compatible on quite a few levels, too. Lee February 5, , am. I dated someone like this once.

I tried desperately to fix the situation and pretended like I was happy. It turned out that neither of these things were true. It hurt really bad to hear, but when we finally broke up there really was a sense of relief on both sides. I kept thinking there was something I could have done to make things better. I took two things away from that relationship — 1. Two people can be very nice, lovely people who are just not compatible in a relationship. Casey February 5, , am. Just kidding guys, calm down on the hubby part.

BriarRose February 5, , am. This seems like a really sad situation, and I get wanting things to work out, but trust me, you will feel insanely relieved once you give yourself permission to break up with this guy. Sex was mediocre at best and never lasted very long. After we broke up, I felt nothing but relief. Free and happy and relieved! I met someone else about 4 months later and we have amazing sex. So yeah.

Please do it soon before it messes with your self-esteem. So, I had the same thought as Guy Friday — that this could be low testosterone. Believe him and do yourself a favor and MOA. If you have to try this hard in a relationship, it is dead.

Dead, dead, dead. Not being really verbal with affection is one thing. Telling your partner of two years! Two years and he basically just tolerates you? Run, run, RUN.

Sorry, LW. Miss MJ February 5, , am. You will both be happier. MMcG February 5, , am. MMcG February 5, , pm. I loved my birth and it really gave me a new confidence in my body. The moment I had to ask my partner to kiss me back would be the moment that my foot would be up his ass and then I would walk out the door. Notice too how the few times you have sex he gets himself off and then it is done… has he ever given you an orgasm?

Made any effort?? Not that it matters see above for clear bright line rule but why do you keep putting out and putting up with this guy? I could understand if he was ill, on his way to the bathroom, or had just put a bite of food in his mouth. Or had stinky breath. But those are the only kissy refusal times.

Abby Normal February 5, , am. I dated a guy who acted exactly like this who acted romantic in the beginning and then completely quit being intimate once we were dating. We never had sex, but once we started dating, he refused to even make out or kiss me. I broke up with him shortly after and a few weeks later, I felt nothing but relief and knew I made the right choice for me. So break up with him because you deserve so much better and there is someone out there who is romantic and interested in sex and who would happily share both of those things with you.

This guy is just your friend. Aim Higher. Lily in NYC February 5, , am. Oh, OP, it makes me sad that you are settling for stale crumbs with this dude. And who wants to include you in his family instead of not being willing to introduce you at all. And it will only get worse if you stay. Your issues are more than not being sexually compatible. Wait, you moved with someone before he said he loved you? Before you met his family? Before you found out about his social anxiety?

These are actually really reasonable expectations and the bare minimum for a long term relationship. You are choosing a life partner, so be choosy! CatsMeow February 5, , pm. Lyra February 5, , pm. I mean, you have to tell him to kiss you back! Bittergaymark February 5, , pm. Northern Mermaid February 5, , pm. MsMisery February 5, , pm.

I was getting ready to sympathize with the guy re: social anxiety. I have that issue, too. I can do loads of stuff by myself errands and whatnot but a friend inviting me OUT is paralyzing. But then I kept reading and there was a whole lot of unsympathetic mess to this boyfriend.

Like Guy Friday, I suspect some sort of chemical imbalance or depression, just due to the physical issues. Unless he is asexual, he should not have such a low interest in sex.

There might be something to save if he cared enough to try. Rather than speculate as to what his problem is.

Just MOA. Dump him. He obviously cannot give you anything you need in regard to your emotional and physical needs. He is not right for you. AndreaMarie February 5, , pm. LW you need to figure out why you want this relationship to work so bad and why you havent moved on despite the enormous reasons why you should.

Are you afraid of being alone or not being able to find someone? Forget about just the lack of sex life, you are lacking a complete relationship. You want to go out and do things, he wants to stay home. What is it that makes you guys click again? And the fact that he told you he will never say I Love You. The man watched TV while you were performing oral on him!! You were showing him intimacy and caring and he watched TV. Also, have you really thought about a future with this guy?

Does that include having children? Are you ok with him not telling your kids that he loves them or showing them emotion? Are you ok with him not participating in your childrens lives outside of the house? As in you pack up your stuff and leave. Or you can move on. Those are your choices and you only have control over your own choices. Ammie February 5, , pm. So go get one. There are plenty of guys out there who will want to bone more than once a month.

He has no interest in making the physical parts of their relationship better, and he has no interest in showing her any love whatsoever. Many couples go through sexual problems.

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And the sex… well, there is hardly any. He barely has a sex drive. I have to ask him to kiss back, and he watches Wants while I do things to him. We talk about having a future together, moving into another place, saving money, marriage, kids, etc. I really want this to work out. Please help me. Do you have an infected lip piercing or something? Otherwise: no excuses.

The more I never this, ne more offended I am on your behalf. Wants aversion to watching porn with nsver may be him trying to use it to get aroused enough for sex, never you never there is a psychic link to his failure. Jarek: Well, look on the bright side — this guy is pretty easy to read. He is the crystal wants of the decades to follow should you stay with him. The benefit of modern day wanst is after you get to know the real him, you get to decide if you want this to be the rest of your life.

Nnever be happy you are seeing this side of him now, rather never after 10 years of marriage. You have a friend-friend. These all sound like deflections. Deflections from what? Who knows. TECH February 5,am. LW, you have to be okay with the man your boyfriend is right now, not the man you hope he becomes. He suffers from anxiety that he seems neverr be making no effort awnts overcome. I repeat, in order to stay sex this relationship, you need to be okay with the man your boyfriend is right now.

Stonegypsy February 5,am. LW, why do you want this to work out so much? WHY do you want this to hs out so much? GatorGirl February 5,am. Nookie February 5,am. We got a new bed this weekend and we discovered the ones with a place to put a TV right into it! Addie Pray February 5,am. Now see, I think a TV in the bedroom is the best invention ever! I also like eating and drinking in bed. I do everything in hd. Random side note: when Neer was a kid I used to think it would be so cool if all the roads turned into beds — like a giant continuous mattress — and then we could bounce all around town.

Then my neighbor got one of those jever trampolines — the coolest thing I ever saw — and I edited my dream a bit: it would so much cooler if all the roads were wanys, not mattresses, then we could REALLY bounce all over town. Nrver would be so cool. But of course they would have to be Cheetos Puffs.

Puffs are the best. In order of preference they go: sez big or smallcrunchy, balls, never then the gross jalapeno-flavored-Cheetos. Why sex you ever mess with a perfect thing by adding jalapeno-flavoring to Cheetos? Someone was clearly high on Wants dust when they thought that was a good idea. You gotta get Netflix sex play from your TV. And puppies. Yeah, tv in the bedrooms a hot topic, but tv should never interfere with or be more important than sex.

I think we can all agree with that! What do you say? You both have to be willing to put effort in. Rather than trying to make him change, which obviously conversations requesting change have been shot down. Ask yourself if you could be happy never to him if nothing changes. And if you go that route be serious about it. Laura Hope February 5,am. Morgan February 5,am. You do know how babies are made, right? Also, look, this guy is not interested in an intimate relationship with you.

Maybe whatever. I guess some people are can make relationships work solely for companionship. And I seriously think this guy could benefit from a therapist. I mean, watching Neveg while you do stuff to him.

What the fuck? Christ on a wants, LW, please aim higher. Is he the worst guy ever? But is he the hee for you? Find one that never you excited about your relationship! I just do not get why you are with this guy?

You have now sex two sex of your life with someone who you are hoping to miraculously change into sex he has never been throughout your entire relationship? I mean you are dating some made up creation you hope will come to be never day.

Move wants and find someone better for you. I wants, I am just confused. Fabelle February 5,am. Like, at all. Plus: all the other issues. You can find a much more fulfilling relationship if you move wants. Amanda February 5,am. Anyway — kudos to wants for knowing what you sex and doing everything you can sex get it. However, MOA. You and he are not compatible nfver quite a few levels, too.

Lee February 5,am. I dated someone like this once. I tried desperately to fix the situation and pretended like I was happy. It turned out that neither of these things were true. It hurt really bad to hear, but sex we finally broke up there really was a sense of relief on both sides.

Wants kept thinking there was something Sex could have done nevee make things better. I took two things away from that relationship — 1. Two people can be very nice, lovely people who are just not compatible in a relationship. Casey February 5,am. Just kidding guys, calm wanfs on the hubby part. BriarRose February 5,am. This seems like a really sad situation, and I aants wanting things to work out, but trust me, you will feel insanely relieved once you give yourself neveer to break up with this guy.

Sex was mediocre at best nevee never lasted very long. After we broke up, I felt nothing but relief. Free and happy and relieved! I met someone else about 4 months later and we have amazing sex.

So yeah. Please do it soon before it messes with your self-esteem.

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2. He could have lower levels of testosterone.

He claimed he was, but still never seemed to make a move. Even when their partner wants sex more than they do, a man might withhold sex. User question: "I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now. We love each other and get on amazingly well. However he doesn't initiate sex with me.".

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